Online dating, previously seen as an avenue for the desperate and dateless, has morphed into a generally accepted avenue to meet a potential partner.
However, who you are will determine your success, and by that I don’t mean who you are physically, intellectually or financially.
Many people put the cart before the horse with their expectations of online dating, believing that a positive or desired characteristic of a potential partner equates to a successful relationship.
A partner who ticks the boxes is desirable, however real success comes from who you choose to BE (your beliefs around love, relationships and yourself), before you DO (online dating), to HAVE (a successful relationship with another that mirrors the relationship with yourself).
Falling in love with yourself and your life is a prerequisite for a successful relationship with another.
Online dating is merely the door. Who you are at your core – your beliefs, expectations, level of trust, what you’ve let go from the past, and how much self-love you hold – will be the key to unlock that door so you can arrive at a place to draw a better relationship to you.
Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world.
Personally, when I figured out who I was being and what I subconsciously believed about myself and life, I saw how I was sabotaging my prospects for an amazing relationship.
But I had created that, so now I had the power to change it.
So I did, and Mr Right-For-Me turned up three months later.
Bobbi Chegwyn is a self empowerment coach, author and speaker who runs her business Ask Coach Bobbi. Check out www.askcoachbobbi.com