Amid the speeches from leaders, past and present, Australian and Indonesian, it was the piping voice of a 12-year-old Balinese boy, reading a poem he had written to his dead father, that hit home hardest at today's commemoration of the Bali bombings.
“I only have one hope, that daddy will come home with a good toy for me,” said Made Bagus Arya Dana in Indonesian, his mother by his side translating into English.
“I stare at the picture of your face. I listen to mum's stories about you … how daddy really loved me. How I miss your hugs.”
Made was one-and-a-half when his father, Gede Badrawan, the head waiter at the Sari Club, died in the bomb blasts on October 12, 2002.
“I am almost 12 years old now, I have started to understand what happened. I can feel mum's sadness. I realise daddy will never be home.”
In a solemn ceremony at the Garuda Wisnu Kencana Cultural Park in Bali, Prime Minister Julia Gillard, former Prime Minister John Howard and Indonesian Foreign Minister Marty Natalegawa all emphasised how the terrorist atrocity had failed to achieve any of its objectives.
It had not divided Australia from Indonesia, nor religions from one another.
“Our two countries drew closer than they had ever been before,” Ms Gillard said.
Addressing the several hundred victims and family members who attended the commemoration, Ms Gillard praised their courage for facing, once again, their demons.
“This is a day of contesting emotions. From anger at unneeded loss, to forgiveness and reconciliation of the bitter past. Wounds and scars abound, healed and unhealed but nothing can replace the empty seat at your family table, the graduations and the christenings you will never know. And the fault line that will always divide into two halves, before Bali and after Bali,” she said.
Ms Gillard also praised Mr Howard, for his “steadfast, reassuring voice for Australians in those dramatic days”.
Mr Howard said the bombing, which killed 202 people including 88 Australians, had tested Australia, but that it had passed “with flying colours” showing its “two great qualities — strength and also tenderness”.
He also addressed the families, saying that, 10 years later: “You are not forgotten, your loss is not forgotten, and the great memorial for those who lost is to be found in the determination of young Australia to keep coming to Bali.”
Dan Hanley lost two daughters, Renee and Simone, who died in the Sari Club.
The younger Simone, was the last of the Australians to die, after 58 days in hospital in Perth.
“When I hear of the 88 Australians who died, I always shed a tear, because my beautiful daughter Simone was number 88,” Mr Hanley said.
The ceremony, attended by perhaps only 1000 out of up to 4000 expected, ended with a prayer from Australia's only saint, Chaplain Ian Whitley.
“When I am lonely bless me with love; when I am sad bless me with joy; when I am discouraged bless me with hope. When spirit is empty, bless me with beauty and when I am troubled, bless me with peace.”
Afterwards, as music chosen by the families played through the park, families streamed out, some weeping loudly and in need of support, while others cried and embraced one another.