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Gay marriage struggle at a turning point

13 Feb, 2012 03:00 AM
Trevor Gaskell doesn't know how he would have got through his wedding day last September without his best man, Peter Bearman, at his side.

One day, he'd like to return the favour.

But for Mr Bearman, 26, there is more than a proposal and a few jitters standing in the way of his special day.

He and his partner, James Pollack, 27, are among the thousands of gay and lesbian couples throughout Australia who cannot marry because the law will not allow it.

The couple hope today's historic move, in which Throsby MP Stephen Jones will introduce a private member's bill to legalise same-sex marriage, will take them a step closer to the recognition they want and believe they deserve.

"One of the best things about Trevor and [his wife] Denise's wedding was being able to see them declare publicly and intimately their love for each other through marriage and to have it socially and legally recognised and accepted," Mr Pollack said.

"As a couple, that's what we want, and it's what our family and friends want for us as well."

The Dapto couple have already made a lifelong commitment to each other - they became engaged mid-last year - but remain frustrated and hurt their relationship cannot progress further.

The Gaskells say they share that frustration.

"I just don't think anyone should have the right to tell someone else who they can or can't marry," Mrs Gaskell said.

For Mr Pollack and Mr Bearman, the series of events that will unfold in Canberra today signals a real turning point in the fight for marriage equality.

"I feel really proud that it's our MP that is leading this," Mr Pollack said, but he acknowledged Mr Jones was likely to face strong resistance from some fellow Labor MPs and the Opposition.

He urged Mr Jones to remain focused, committed and strong in the wake of the backlash.

"We'd really like to say thank you to Stephen - for listening and recognising our relationships are valid as well," Mr Pollack said.

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Good luck guys, it's time to end discrimination against gays and lesbians. It's almost unbelievable that we're still fighting this fight in this day and age.
Posted by Sue Moran, 13/02/2012 4:48:00 AM, on Illawarra Mercury
Good luck boys
Posted by Mike from Corrimal, 13/02/2012 5:25:48 AM, on Illawarra Mercury
Good luck today mr jones, after reading this story i too now believe all people should have the right . lets hope common sense prevails in paliarment today so couples like peter and james can one day marry if they choose. . It should be the right of all doesnt matter what or who you are. Equality sees no boundaries.
Posted by Samantha, 13/02/2012 6:13:08 AM, on Illawarra Mercury
The reaction of many people seems to be that same sex attraction is something new! It is as old as history and in the 21st Century, surely the desire of a couple to be legally recognised will be allowed. Maybe the term "Marriage" is what offends, so another title with similar meaning?
Posted by Heather, 13/02/2012 7:57:52 AM, on Illawarra Mercury
Illawarra is lucky to have an MP who is willing to speak out on this issue - it's not about morality, it's about equality.
Posted by reader, 13/02/2012 8:11:58 AM, on Illawarra Mercury
Good luck boys! Hopefully your beautiful dream wedding is just around the corner x
Posted by spoot, 13/02/2012 8:15:46 AM, on Illawarra Mercury
All the best guys. Thanks for sharing your story. Hopefully it will help to break down prejudices that are still evident in the Illawarra.
Posted by Dave65, 13/02/2012 8:31:29 AM, on Illawarra Mercury
Call it a civil union and give the 'spouse' legal rights but it's not a marriage in my book. A couple that cannot (by nature) have a baby together is not a marraige by sheer definition of the act.


Posted by It_is_what_it_is, 13/02/2012 8:43:21 AM, on Illawarra Mercury
Im not religious by any means but isn't the sacrament of marriage a relious act?. Im guessing these gay people aren't that religious either, then why the big fuss about marrying!... Let me assure you, It's over rated and hard.


Posted by stay_single, 13/02/2012 8:45:19 AM, on Illawarra Mercury
I don't think it's descrimination as you cannot argue against the laws of nature.

I was born in Brazil, I can call myself an Aussie until in green and gold in the face but nature (and reality) states im Brazillian. I drive an old VW, I can call it a Beamer all I want but again, it is what it is.

The list goes on, and on, and on......

Posted by jazz, 13/02/2012 8:53:45 AM, on Illawarra Mercury
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Couples Trevor and Denise Gaskell and Peter Bearman and James Pollack on Port Kembla beach yesterday. Picture: SYLVIA LIBER
Couples Trevor and Denise Gaskell and Peter Bearman and James Pollack on Port Kembla beach yesterday. Picture: SYLVIA LIBER

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