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Most nights after work, I walk about 700 metres from my office to my car through dark streets at the edge of Wollongong's CBD. It's often late, and there aren't many people around.
Before I leave, I put my car keys in my hand. I find my phone, make sure my backpack is all zipped up and call my partner or mum to keep me company. I hang up when I've got in my car and locked the doors.
They're used to my calls and understand my weird logic that, at least if someone were to attack me, they would know where I was. Maybe being on the phone might deter someone from grabbing my bag - or worse.
For a long time, I've felt like this is overkill. Too much caution for a short walk, too much paranoia caused by working at a newspaper.
But hearing about Eurydice Dixon, who was walking home from work through city streets with her own safety plan - texting her friend to say she was almost home - before her body was found in a park the next morning, I know I'll keep being cautious.
However, as this and other women’s deaths show, women are not in control of whether they are safe if someone decides they are going to rape or kill them.
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Which is why it was galling to read the same old advice from police, that women walking in the dark should "make sure you have situational awareness" and be aware of personal safety.
As if we already weren't. And as if, in the end, this can do anything.
Sure, it's up to police to offer up ways to prevent crimes, and I'm sure they didn't mean to imply that Eurydice Dixon was responsible for preventing her own death in their oft-repeated advice.
But when young men die or are gravely injured in alcohol-fuelled attacks during a night out, they don’t get told to be more aware. Instead, laws get changed to make it easier to put their attackers in jail.
With advice given to women in the wake of violence against them clearly not working, maybe it’s time to stop telling them to change their behaviour and ask men to.